I saw a rather interesting show on NatGeo

Hmm. how do I begin? it was about love and how it comes to be, how we find our partners and how they get lasting relationships.

It was a very interesting research indeed. Sadly I forgot the name of the girl who did the research but she divided it into 3 kinds.

1. 'Sexual desire' or 'light lusting'
Now, this isnt the sexual desire in the sense that you want to just have sex with someone or stuff like that. Rather, its the first part where our brain releases chemicals out that attract us to a certain person, most times with out us even knowing it. its that attraction that you feel however dont really react to? Not a direct sexual attraction that you get images about someone. Stuff like that, nothing like it. It's an unexplainble pull to a certain someone which may stop there or lead to more depending on chemistry

2. 'Romantic love' or 'real love'

This follows the 'Sexual desire' that you'd feel first. This is when more of these chemicals (sorry I forgot what) are released from your respective organs (lol) up to your blood and finally up to your brain. This is where you get that over powering feeling that you cant explain. In the research they said that after studying reactions of the human brain it was seen that our brains react similarly to taking illegal substances. (they said ecstasy and cocaine) But yes, that is where you get that overpowering feeling that you cant explain. If you've ever been truly inlove, you know how this feels. I felt this on Jan 3 of this year. :-)

Now, to get more detailed on this, this can either be good or deadly. Since this chemical has gives similar reactions to drugs from our brain, they sometimes also give the similar actions people do while on drugs. When some people are that inlove and get turned down/find out about the other person cheating the chemicals released into their head bring out different reactions. But it's mostly the drug like reactions where the couple become dependent on each other. (if youre asking why sometimes the other doesnt feel anything I'll get to that later on)

But yes, most of the time that is the reaction brought out. One becomes dependent on the other and would do anything to get what they want. Sometimes others get too dependent that when they are turned down they choose to hurt themselves. Now this isnt a 'right choice' but I suppose this research somehow shows how it is people end up doing that. its in 'their mind' to do that.

And as for when someone likes someone, and the other doesnt like them back, well, it's all in the chemistry. Now, chemistry is something you arent sure of right off the bat. It's something you realize in time and maybe something your body just reacts to.

like lets say youre seeing someone, you say you love their scent but when asked to describe it, you cant. I believe thats chemistry. It's something the nose sniffs but cant detect. Instead the chemicals in your brain react to this. Aside from hugs and kisses to detect, It's said that the eyes 'light up' when you feel this chemistry over power you. It's something you and I cant explain but our bodies can feel.


3. attatchment

Well, just as it says the last part of it is when we are 'romantically inlove' with someone and an attachment comes in (from the drug like reaction I suppose) but this is where your relationship either takes a turn for the good or the bad. This attatchment is enough to get some to stay loyal to someone forever and to some this isnt enough. Why? Chemistry again fools. Those with good chemistry,are those who last forever ( you know what I mean) and stay faithful to each other all throughout. Those who either dont have chemistry or have good intentions are those who end up cheating.

also, they said that couples who think or talk about sex quite alot isnt bad. Because in their research they found that couples who thought of having quite an amount of sex with one another but gradually getting to the thought that they are having sex with each other to have kids are those who stay faithful and happy with each other.

however thoughts of just plain sex leads otherwise.

But in the end its all in the chemistry. Thats how you know its real. The way our bodies pick up scents from the DNA formation in another (wow how geeky do I sound?) and how we react to that.












Oh, I love you Bernice!









Ps. It's 1am and I didnt proof read this so yeah